Cyber dating
Tom Snow

So your having trouble linking up with girls, your friends have told you that your social life is worse than that of Attila the Hun, you’ve worked the single bars and been rejected by everyone in a skirt at the place you work and even the babes at they gym know you’re desperate and dateless. You could always come and see someone like me but perhaps you feel that seeing a hooker would be admitting defeat. Of course you could always try finding a soul mate on-line but you’ve heard horror stories from other guys who have tried. Well perhaps if you approach the chat room scene with a little caution you might be able to avoid the traps that others have fallen into.

1.The very first thing you should do in a chat room is to be honest about yourself. Of course you should present yourself in the best possible light but don’t give yourself a nick like ‘Supercock’ or ‘15inchschlong’ because the only people you will end up talking to are guys who are pretending to be girls. Girls are just as aware of the traps of on-line dating so they are going to be looking for genuine guys, not idiots who are legends in their own lunchtimes. Simply be yourself and you are well on your way to success.

2. Don’t launch into attempts to initiate cybersex - once again you do not know who you are talking to and most girls are looking for any sort of relationship want it in person, not through the anonymity of a nickname on a computer monitor. Chat rooms are absolutely full of guys who want cybersex - they circle like sharks pouncing on every new entrant to the room who happens to have a female sounding nick. If you want to join the feeding frenzy then go for it but don’t expect to find your dream girl.

3. Don’t send photos of body parts. Because I am on-line with my escort business I seem to attract floods of photos of cocks of all shapes and sizes to my hotmail address. I get so many that I don’t even open them anymore - they just get trashed straight away. Now if somebody sent me a photo of how fat his wallet is I might be more interested because a hooker is interested in money, not cock size. The same basic rule applies to girls in chat rooms. They want to know whether they can establish some sort of relationship with you, not how big or small your cock may or may not be.

4. On the other hand, when you do find someone that you want to meet, make sure that you exchange photographs. Obviously you are going to need to know what each other looks like so that you can identify each other at your rendezvous point.

5. Make sure that you actually talk to the girl on the phone before you meet. I know a lot of girls, and guys too, who look stunning in photographs and in person but as soon as they open their mouth their tone of voice or the language they use totally destroys their image. The opposite is also true. I know girls who sound absolutely wonderful on the phone but you would not want to meet them face-to-face.

6. Make sure you know what you want before you start trying to cyber date. If you are hoping to find a lasting relationship you don’t want to be caught with someone who wants a one-night stand. Be honest with the other person because it is just a waste of time if you are both looking for different outcomes.

7. Physical attributes are important. Make a short list of those things that you are looking for in a girl. Don’t make the list too long or you will exclude everyone and miss out on a number of girls that you might have been quite happy to date. Let me give you a personal example; I have any number of guys ringing me to set up an appointment but when they find that I am a bigger girl they back off very quickly. In the city where I live there are very few sex workers and so some guys do call back because they haven’t been able to find anyone else. Quite often when I see those guys they tell me that they have more fun with me than they do with thinner girls that they see in other states. So don’t write a girl of simply because she says she is a size 16 - after all some of the sexiest women in history have been a size 16 or bigger. Marilyn Munroe for instance was a size 16.

8. When you find a girl don’t waste a lot of time chatting to her before you set up a meeting but at the same time don’t rush her either. Move steadily towards the face-to-face meeting and arrange it for somewhere public. You need some way to escape if you find that your dream girl is really a psychotic axe murderer.

9. When you are still in the chatting stage don’t get upset if they don’t respond to your messages immediately. There is life on the other side of the computer screen and things can interfere and distract people who are chatting. If they don’t respond immediately the chances are that they are not trying to ignore you so be patient and don’t fire off an angry message demanding to know why she hasn’t responded. That sort of attitude will destroy all the good work you have already done whereas patience and understanding will increase your stature in her eyes.

10. If you make a date to meet but can’t make it or you get cold feet and want to back out be sure to call the girl and let her know. Meeting from a cyber date is the hardest thing to do so don’t inflict pain on the girl if you can’t go through with the meeting.
cyber dating has its problems and there certainly are lots of traps but if you approach it with the right attitude you can meet the partner of your dreams