Cunnilingus A Women's View

By Wicked Temptress

There's just something satisfying about knowing you're pleasing your partner sexually. The way she moans and arches her back in ecstasy always seems to put a smile on both your faces. But there is always room for improvement which is why in this article I will discuss oral sex (cunnilingus) techniques as well as sex aids that can help you better please your partner. It's always good to start off slow and gentle for three key reasons. Number one, you want to build up excitement in your lover and the best way to do that is to start off slow and work your way up, faster, slightly rougher as you go (but do not hurt her).

Number two this will allow you to better explore what your partner likes and doesn't like. And number three, if you start off too rough it can completely turn your partner off to oral sex. This is especially true if you are both rough and "rubbing her the wrong way" so to speak. So take your time and try to really explore what pushes all the right buttons for her. Even if you've been with your partner for a long time you should explore her pussy and build up to oral sex as if you were doing it for the first time. Your partner will be excited and appreciate this from you.

Don't start off by shoving your fingers into her or playing with her clit, even if she seems wet enough. Instead, try starting off by running your tongue across her closed pussy lips and teasing the area around her clit. When you finally do work up to it (and she should be really worked up by this point) remember that your tongue feels best on her clit. Fingering her as you're licking her clit does feel good and should be done. However, don't neglect licking her pussy hole. A good, deep tongue fucking will excite and tease her to no end!

 Let's take a moment here to discuss your fingers. You are probably aware that your fingernails should be cut down to the flesh of your fingers. This will ensure that you will not cut or scratch your partner from the inside which can be very painful. If you prefer to have longer fingernails just be sure to take extra care in what you are doing. One thing you may wish to consider doing is taking a little time out of each day to exercise your fingers. This will help your fingers to endure longer when you play with your partner. This may also aid you with keeping a constant speed when fingering her. Guitar players, for example, have well exercised fingers therefore (most of them) are excellent at fingering (so get playing the guitar!).

Showing your excitement may also increase excitement for your partner. Some men don't realize that something as simple as this can greatly increase arousal in their partners. The Grafenberg spot, more commonly known as the G-spot, is another key element in giving your partner an orgasm. The G-spot is a mound of tissue inside of the vagina. It can be anywhere between the size of a penny to maybe the size of a quarter. The G-spot produces hormones similar to the hormones the male prostate produces and serves as sort of a higher concentration of sexual nerves.

So how do you find her G-spot? Using your middle finger, stick your finger inside her. Your palm should be facing up. Now, slowly curl your finger towards you. If she's excited you should feel a swollen patch of tissue where her G-spot is. You should only play with her G-spot once your partner is already excited, do not use it as a way to try get her aroused. Once she is excited enough for you to play with her G-spot, start off by pressing on it gently. It may be easier for you to feel her G-spot if you use two fingers. If your partner is too tight or uncomfortable then either go back to using one finger, or give her some time to adjust to your two fingers. Do not start off too quickly or too rough. Your pressing should be a rhythmic motion. Of course you shouldn't forget that the main focus of this event is oral sex, so don't neglect licking at her clit and teasing her pussy lips while you are massaging her G-spot.

She should slowly build up to orgasm. A G-spot orgasm feels differently and will cause her body to react differently than any other type of orgasm. These reactions will vary as each woman will be effected differently. You can prolong this orgasm by using her contractions. When she contracts you will feel your fingers being pushed out. Allow them to push your fingers and make a new sort of rhythmic pattern. By doing this you can prolong her orgasm for hours. Remember to be gentle so you don't make her raw inside.

When you give her such an intense orgasm and prolong it, she may ejaculate. If your partner is not familiar with how this feels then she may think that she has lost control of her bladder. Many women feel embarrassed when this happens because they are not aware that what they have actually done was ejaculation. Your licking patterns should be rhythmic, but not the same stroke over and over again. This tends to make women lose interest after a while. Make your licking rhythmic, but slightly different each time. Remember, slightly different, not vastly different. You shouldn't have your tongue so all over the place that neither of you is quite sure what you are doing.

To freshen things up in the bedroom try using a breath mint, cough drop, or even a candy cane. Suck on one of these minty selections to make it nice and smooth and to get the taste in your mouth then insert it inside of your partner's pussy while licking at her clit. The mint will give off a tingly feeling that will be pleasurable and fun for you and your partner to play with.If your tongue ever gets tired of licking but you want to keep on ticking try using your whole jaw to move your tongue instead of moving your tongue directly. Have patience, observe your lover to see what she likes and doesn't like, and you should be able to bring her to complete orgasm.