Appreciate Each Other
John Straw

Have you ever heard of relationship envy? It can destroy your friendship/relationship, even worse destroy you and your friend. Saturday afternoon you and your group seem to be on the same path but then all of a sudden... your lady is causing a huge catastrophe. She could be to blame if she had something against you or if she treats you like a kid in front of them, but that is not the problem. She's everything to you and things couldn't be better. For some reason your friend doesn't have your back, whats going on here? If she took you away from your group you would have no problem understanding what's going on here. The problem seem to be your friends

You friends are pissed off at you because you were always there with them and now you have to answer to your woman. You have that manly side in which you share with the boys, then there's the softer side with charm for your woman. You figure they'll understand. To help get rid of the problem, you stopped dating her because her act was getting tired. The very next day you were out chasing after every piece of tail you could get your hands on, but their still mad at you.

The perfect woman

Your woman understand the bond you and your friends have, so she's not about to mess with that part of your life. In fact she loves it. She's attracted to that side of you along with the pranks, inside jokes etc.. She told you that your bond with the boys is sweet. What I'm trying to say here is that she has appreciation for you and your friends. Your woman even encourages you to make plans with your friends.

Just like us

The greatest thing is that you can bring her along with you to your friends place. She gets along with them great. No worries there. You woman knows what she's doing, she knows when to speak and when to just sit back and watch what's going on. Doesn't matter what you and your friends are doing, your girl blends in perfectly. She's almost like one of the boys. well almost. Every man on this earth would love to have a woman like yours.

Looking to be the best

Your woman is just too good looking for these guys to handle. She is so ideal and hot that your friends either want her or cannot stand the fact that you found her. I have something that might help you out. Men want their friends to get a great girl but...not too much of a great girl. Deep down each man in the group wants to have the best of everything. Guys are naturally born with that edge to have the best of everything and will do almost everything to get it.

When your friend gets a brand new amazing looking car don't you ever wish you had what he's got? When one of your boys walks into a party with a hot little blonde on his arm, don't you wish you had her on your arm? Let's but our friendship aside here for a second, no matter what we are to each other we want to have the best and that's it. We all want to be the leader of the pack, which is why we seek to kill each other on the football field.

Why not just appreciate?

Put a girl in the middle of all this and it can get very nasty. Here you are with your perfect honey. The girl who can get along with your group without a problem. You've never felt more on top with your girlfriend in your life.

Yes your boys are happy for you but they are also envious of what you've got that they don't. Forget the fact that your time is now divided between her and them. That used to be a problem until you met your woman.

Unlike your last girlfriend who was a nut case, this girl is a perfect 10.Whats their problem? Your friends probably are envious because they only have each other and a little fling here and there. To a man, the group can see that you've become more mature and you're ready to settle down for the future. But when they look around, the girls they see pale in comparison to the woman you have found.

Your boys want her around but at the same time, they wish she wouldn't go away. She can talk about sports and hang with the guys, as well as talk a little dirty. This taking the cake, she loves to talk about women, more then you do. She'll even pick out a hot girl for you boys to stare at. What a prize. Add it up and you have one amazing woman on your hands.

The guys are deciding whether or not to say congrats or beat you up. You girl is the best looking any of you have landed in a real long time. The guys will ask when you're not around "how the heck did he get a girl like that"? They figure if you can get this girl to love you they should be able to get the same. But it hasn't happened yet. So why their dating "okay" girls you're sitting there with your love muffin enjoying every minute of your life. This can be very hard for your boys to swallow.

A better man

You still hang out with the boys but it's just not the same anymore. Now that you've got a good woman in your life everything's been changed. To piss your boys off even more is that your girl encourages you, but you still say no. Maybe the fact that you don't want to do anything anymore makes the group realize how pathetic some of their antics are. You have evolved with an ideal partner by your side but they have remained angry, doing the same thing week in, week out. You still love to chill and party with them, but the whole thing is different. They need time to grow and then they'll understand.

What you could do for your boys

Try not to bring up that you have noticed that their all envious of you and your new girl. That could cause something bad to happen. Did you honestly expect your friend to just come up to you and say "man I'm so jealous of you and I want what you've got"? He'll never do this. So here is what you do:

*Usually hot women know other hot girls. Maybe your girl can hook your boys up with one of her friends.

*If your woman is such a problem with the group bring her around gradually. Don't shove her in their face.

*Marry her. This way the boys will have to learn to love her.

*Have a baby with her.

Let your boys know that you love them but you also love your girl.